I’m amazed at all the hype surrounding 50 Shades of Grey. Our country and probably the world is celebrating the release of this movie in more “shades” than I can count. I haven’t seen a lot of talk on the news or TV about the backlash this movie is creating, but I see it in the blogosphere.
So I thought I’d weigh in on this prickly issue and put my own odd spin on the discussion.
What if 50 Shades is really an example {albeit perverted} of what God wants and designed for our marriages?
Cue “Church Lady’s” iconic raised eye-brow . . . “Well, isn’t that special.”
Seriously, hear me out on this one . . .
First of all, I am in no way, shape or form promoting BDSM {bondage and discipline, sadomasochism and masochism}!
Just for the record . . . Ewww!
Women have come too far to be deceived by this repackaged form of sexual AND physical abuse. Yes! That’s exactly what 50 Shades is peddling, people!
But where I think 50 Shades reveals something worth noticing begins with a “room” full of mysteries that are intended to bond together two people who are experiencing exhilarating fear mixed with passion.
I’d like to compare this to a pursuit for the “scary good” in marriage.
I think God had this “scary good” idea in mind from the very beginning. I mean, think about it. Adam and Eve were placed naked in a garden surrounded by every delicious delicacy at their fingertips as well as every awesome sight to behold—including each other! Quite the intimate setting.
Fast-forward to that horrible/wonderful day when Christ hung on a tree for you and me to buy back the intimacy we had in the garden with each other and with Him. The moment He died, the “veil of the temple” was torn from top to bottom {an impossible feat for any human being, I might add}. “The veil” being torn gives us access to the “Holy of Holies”—ushering in a new and “boundless” level of intimacy with our Lord.
Compare the “playroom” that was revealed to “Anastasia” in the movie to this “holy room” where God’s presence resides. One room holds the promise of heightened ecstasy brought about primarily by fear—enduring horror, abuse and pain, then mingling them with euphoric hormones.
Let’s confuse the brain, the genitals and, while we’re at it, each other, why don’t we?!
The other holds the promise of mind-boggling Love that ushers you and your spouse into the sacred room of your hearts where He {Christ} dwells—so that you can see Him unveiling your most pleasurable sense of safety, euphoric intimacy and spine-tingling oneness in the arms of your spouse. That’s because . . .
[Tweet “True intimacy is born in the “Holy of Holies” in our marriages. “]
This is where our hearts and minds swim deep in the sweet waters of knowledge, acceptance and belonging—never confusion or pain!
Sure, the tearing of the veil separating the Holy of Holies from the rest of the temple is fundamentally a picture of God’s invitation for intimacy with Him. But true to Christ’s character . . .
[Tweet “Jesus always shares His sweet communion and union with us as well as uniquely through our marriages.”]
I’ll be unpacking next week what this “scary good” pursuit in marriage looks like and how to “open that door” next Wedded Wednesday! I hope you’ll come back by to be “enlightened.” 😉
What scares you most about going deeper in intimacy with your spouse?
What is your opinion of the 50 Shades movie? Like it or abhor it? {There really seems to be no in-between!}
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