Wondering if God is there for you? And Linkup!

Lover of Your Soul

Do you ever struggle to feel like God is active in healing your marriage and life? Do you wonder if He hears your prayers or is “for” you in the daily struggles you encounter? I had a day yesterday that, if I lived by the circumstances or my feelings, could have confirmed that God was […]

Is my secret ‘safe’? Video

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Yes, it’s that time of the week to grab your “cup of joe” and join me for another “sloppy joe time!” In this video, I talk about the way I allowed my angry thoughts about my spouse to go from a minor messy meditation to a festering monstrosity in no time!  I’d love it if you’d take less than 3 minute to watch! […]

Bringing Balance to Our Families {Linkup and Giveaway!}

TrustintheLord

I was raised in your standard, run-of-the-mill dysfunctional home. I didn’t know it at the time, but in my family of origin codependency abounded! Some people make the mistake of assuming that you can only be “codependent” if there’s an addict who is “dependent” upon drugs or alcohol in your family. But codependency happens whenever there is […]

Can you read my mind? Video

SuperSpouse

Today I’m laying out another sloppy expectation that revealed a heaping helping of my “magical thinking” and irrational idealism back in the day! At the time, I simply thought it was an effective way to communicate my frustration and get my husband to “hop to it!” This was something that I had seen my mother do, so […]

The Communication Tool that Opens Hearts … and Linkup!

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If you’ve been viewing over the past month or so my video podcasts, then you’re aware that I promised to tell you about a communication “tool” that my husband and I use to handle conflicts effectively. That tool is “reflective listening.” I’m going to provide detailed instructions on how to practice reflective listening in its […]

Will you validate how I feel? Video

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Today I’m continuing the conversation on the difficulty of receiving your spouse’s hurt. For me, I’ve discovered that I have a faulty belief that interferes and hinders my ability to validate my spouse in those moments. I’d love it if you’d take 3+ minutes out of your day to check it out!     Are there […]

Are You a Speck Inspector? And Linkup!

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Hi, I’m Beth Steffaniak and I’m a recovering “Speck Inspector.” Yessiree, I’m guilty as charged! And if you asked my hubby, he would definitely nod in agreement. This concept is revealed to us in Matthew 7:1-5, where Jesus provides a very “eye-opening” truth about humanity’s habit of judging others. He says that we cannot be […]

How to Receive Your Spouse’s Hurt – Video

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I’m back with another installation of  “Sloppy Joe Time” that unpacks the many sloppy expectations we have in life and marriage. Today’s video tackles how to receive the hard truth of how you’ve hurt your spouse. After all, if we are breathing and have a pulse, we will hurt our spouse! We may not always do it […]

One Attitude that Improves the Success of Your Marriage {and Linkup!}

Give More

I can see the opposite of “this attitude” coming toward me a mile away as a counselor and life-coach! That’s because it’s very easy to see in others, not so easy to identify in yourself. But allow me to ask one question that reveals the kind of attitude we need for success in marriage … Are you a “Giver” […]

Am I Your Soft Place to Fall? Video

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Today, I’m sharing another video in our series of “sloppy expectations” in marriage. I explore the best way to respond to our spouses when we are confronted by how we’ve hurt them.     What thoughts typically run through your head when your spouse shares how you’ve hurt them?    What do you think could help you to look […]