How Small Acts of Love Transform Your Heart And WW Linkup

Loving Acts Move Mountains

When we first get married, connecting with our spouse almost always feels as natural as breathing. You feel compelled to connect because your emotions are so strong and vibrant for your bride or groom. You want to get to know everything there is to know about this mysterious person because, well, … you don’t know […]

Convince Your Spouse to Fight for Your Marriage

Love and Sacrifice

Sometimes it’s the most simple of suggestions that makes the biggest difference in life and marriage. Gary Chapman shares a bit of advice on influencing your marriage partner to reengage with you in marriage. If you are consistent with following Dr. Chapman’s wise counsel, I think you’ll find yourself and your spouse becoming more and […]

Join the Couple Connection Challenge And WW Linkup!

Connect with Spouse

Recently I conducted a survey with men regarding the difficulties of being open with a wife or girlfriend. The survey is still ongoing, (and if you’re a man who’d like to participate, please click here) but so far the results have been very telling. I’ll be sharing about them soon. Now I may be making […]

8 Popular ‘Sloppy Joe Time’ Videos

SJT Videos

I am still having computer issues with a new (used) computer that I recently bought from an individual. The laptop’s been experiencing “GPU panics” especially when I use iMovie. So I’m getting a new graphics card—a rather costly and unexpected expense for a laptop that is older. {sigh} I guess the moral of the story […]

When Your Spouse Stonewalls You And WW Linkup

God's Comfort

Creating a confessional culture is not for the faint of heart, especially if you are trying to do so in a deeply wounded and dysfunctional marriage. As a marriage life-coach and counselor, I’d say that the majority of folks I deal with are in a relationship where one partner is doing most of the humbling […]

10 of My Favorite Posts

Favorite Posts of MM

I’d like to share ten of my favorite posts (in no particular order) that I’ve done here at Messy Marriage. Most are recent, but there are a few that go a bit further back in the vault. I hope you find them to be encouraging, thought-provoking and marriage-challenging! Validating Your Spouse’s Feelings Find God’s Redemptive […]

Peacemaker or Peacekeeper? And WW Linkup

Peacemaker

Since my post last week encouraged the extending of grace to our mates, I felt it was important to explain the difference between giving grace (peacemaking) and enabling unhealthy behavior (peacekeeping). After all … Enabling and extending grace are two very different things that often get mistaken for each other. Click To Tweet I’ve provided […]

Lord, why aren’t You answering? SJT Video

Spiritual Growth & Prayer

I’m finally back today after much vacationing and celebrating of my son’s wedding—not to mention, technical/computer issues bogging me down—with yet another “Sloppy Joe Time.” Thanks so much for your patience with me in this! Today I’m delving into a sloppy expectation I had with God in regards to my husband and my painful, messy […]

Covering for My Spouse and WW Linkup

Overlook Offenses

I think there’s just something in the DNA of every human being that tries to cover up vulnerabilities and weaknesses that we see in ourselves. Believe me, I know what I’m talking about, because that describes me much more than I’d like to admit! However, I think this pattern started way back in the Garden […]

How to Affirm Your Mate Printable

Affirmation Single

It’s been quite a challenge to get back on track with the blog since vacationing and celebrating my son’s wedding. Add to that, my laptop has a major issue that has left several computer geeks stumped and you might understand why I’m taking yet another break from my Sloppy Joe Times. I will be back, […]