12 Ways We Push Our Spouses Away and WW Link Up!

Draw our Spouses Near

Very often we push our spouses away without even knowing we’re doing it on a conscious level. Sadly, I’m just as guilty of clinging to many of these “12 Ways” as you might be. In fact, I’d be better off telling you which ones I don’t struggle with, than to name the long list of […]

Turning ‘Messy into Messages’ and Blog Hop

From Messed to Blessed

I’ve been blessed in this bloggy community by so many amazing and encouraging friends, but one that continues to bless and encourage me is, Linda Stoll of Creekside Ministries. Not only do we have a lot in common {both life-coaches} but we share the same heartbeat in ministry and writing. So I was thrilled when […]

Fought Fire with Fire! And WW Link Up!

Fire with Fire

Repost from October of 2010, from my series on the Top Ten Mistakes I Made in Marriage. This was number 4. For years, my husband and I went ‘round and ‘round when it came to conflict. He would do something that would rattle my chain, and then all of a sudden he’d notice I had […]

The Problem of Avoiding Conflict with My Spouse and WW Link Up!

Avoiding Conflict

Today is another repost of an oldie {October 2010} but a goodie from my series, “The Top Ten Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” Enjoy! I grew up in a family that didn’t really know how to resolve conflicts in a healthy way. Often my parents played opposite positions in times of conflict, but neither position […]

Asking For Too Much Communication? And WW Link Up!

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{Repost of an article originally published – October, 2010} Let’s face it. There are major differences between men and women, and one of the big ones is the amount of communication women use versus men. Studies have shown that women use approximately 20,000 words per day, compared to the measly 7,000 word count that men […]

Never Asked My Spouse to Help and Wedded Wed Link Up!

The System

While I’m taking a four week break from blogging, I’m sharing some older posts from way back in MM’s vault. This was my very first post that kicked-off a series I dubbed the “Top 10 Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” It was published way back on October, 10 of 2010! Whoa, can’t believe it’s been […]

Too Close to Your Spouse? & Link up!

Too Close

While I’m taking a break from blogging, I’m sharing some older posts from way back in MM’s vault. This article was originally published almost two years ago to this day – July 18th, 2012! What? Did I read that right? Can I really be too close to my spouse? Maybe that’s what you were thinking […]

Realistic Expectations and WW Link Up!

Life Needs Pruning

I’ve just finished a forgiveness series that I’m planning on turning into a free ebook for my current and new subscribers. Yay! But in order to do that and to tackle the more-than-I-can-properly-describe-long-list-of-to-do’s, I must take time away from blogging. That doesn’t mean I’m leaving Messy Marriage without a weekly post—actually “repost.” During my month […]

Assuming Too Much & WW Link Up!

Slow to Anger

Part of what I do as a counselor and life coach is to “speculate.” It’s easy to let this “skill” that’s often appropriate in one setting, carry over to my personal relationships where it is far from appropriate! In fact, whenever I’m around my hubby and speculate about what someone might think or feel, he very matter-of-factly […]

How Successful is Your Reconciliation? And Link Up

3 Signs of Reconciliation

There’s no easy answer to the question: What are the signs that reconciliation is not going to work? But … I would like to offer you Leslie Vernick’s three essential ingredients to a thriving relationship as a guide for assessing how well your reconciliation {particularly in marriage} is going. The first essential ingredient is … […]