Why are you so upset? SJT Video

Wounds that Lurk

Today I am continuing where I left off from my last Sloppy Joe Time video by dealing with the wounds that are often present in the conflicts of our marriages and lives. We may not see them, but in this video I give some tips for identifying them as well as what to do and […]

Closer Than Ever Before – Guest Post by John and Wendy Godfrey & Linkup!

7 Ways to be closer

Keeping your marriage strong as you grow older doesn’t have to be difficult. There are a number of great things you can do to make sure you and your spouse are more in love than ever before. By focusing on your marriage and making it a priority, you’ll find that the joy of being married […]

Does Your Spouse Need Perspective? SJT Video

Deflatefeelings

Ever find yourself in the middle of a painful conversation about a past hurt with your spouse, and you don’t know why your spouse isn’t resonating with or able to receive in a gracious way how s/he has hurt you? Well, in my latest Sloppy Joe Time video, I talk about what you both need […]

Ignoring a problem in marriage? And WW Linkup!

Ignore or Explore

If you don’t know this about me already, you must know that I am always looking at what the metaphor for life might be that God wants to teach me. The graphic above is a photo of the piece of glass that lodged downward into my left hand last Thursday. I was trying to get […]

Messy Management – SJT Video

Treading into a mess

It’s good to be back to my weekly “Sloppy Joe Time” video spots. Today I’m sharing a candid moment where I blew it with my husband. And I’m asking for your help! If you have any suggestions for how to solve an impasse that you might have with your spouse, please let me know! Sometimes […]

What to Do When Your Spouse Won’t Change and WW Linkup!

Right Thing

With the new year, comes the fall-out from the holiday season. We often overeat, over-drink, overwork and overdo it in just about every conceivable way during that time of year. So January is the prime time to regroup and commit to new and positive changes that bring relief to our out-of-shape lives. I’m mostly a […]

My Gift to You! And WW Linkup!

Forgive U Cover

Christmas is the season for giving, because our Lord and Savior came to earth as a babe in a manger—ultimately giving His life for us on the cross! That’s why I want to give to you, my Messy Marriage subscribers, a gift that I’ve been feverishly working on for months. I thought it would be […]

Have a ‘sticky’ marriage? And Linkup!

God's Glue Prov. 1824

There are two aspects of marriage that I believe “glue us” to our spouses. When one or both are absent or lacking, you can expect that your marriage and feelings of love will suffer as well. What is that special combo? Any guesses?   Married Sex and a Spiritual Foundation   1. Married Sex* – […]

Will you meet ‘my’ needs? SJT Video

SJT Alternate

In this video, I share how anytime I seek my independence and focus on getting “my needs”* met in marriage, I create something of a “tug-of-war” with my husband. I offer a “work-in-progress” strategy that has changed the dynamic and atmosphere of my marriage drastically for the better whenever I use it! I hope you’ll check it out […]

Lessen Stress with 2 Thoughts! and WW Linkup

Father of Lights

This is a long one—longer than I like to post—but it’s funny and, I think, worth the read! This past week we celebrated Thanksgiving here in the U.S. and I worked really hard … AND I worked really hard at shifting my focus from feelings of self-pity and negativity too! I think this time of year is […]