Are You a Speck Inspector? And Linkup!

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Hi, I’m Beth Steffaniak and I’m a recovering “Speck Inspector.” Yessiree, I’m guilty as charged! And if you asked my hubby, he would definitely nod in agreement. This concept is revealed to us in Matthew 7:1-5, where Jesus provides a very “eye-opening” truth about humanity’s habit of judging others. He says that we cannot be […]

How to Receive Your Spouse’s Hurt – Video

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I’m back with another installation of  “Sloppy Joe Time” that unpacks the many sloppy expectations we have in life and marriage. Today’s video tackles how to receive the hard truth of how you’ve hurt your spouse. After all, if we are breathing and have a pulse, we will hurt our spouse! We may not always do it […]

One Attitude that Improves the Success of Your Marriage {and Linkup!}

Give More

I can see the opposite of “this attitude” coming toward me a mile away as a counselor and life-coach! That’s because it’s very easy to see in others, not so easy to identify in yourself. But allow me to ask one question that reveals the kind of attitude we need for success in marriage … Are you a “Giver” […]

Am I Your Soft Place to Fall? Video

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Today, I’m sharing another video in our series of “sloppy expectations” in marriage. I explore the best way to respond to our spouses when we are confronted by how we’ve hurt them.     What thoughts typically run through your head when your spouse shares how you’ve hurt them?    What do you think could help you to look […]

Dating in Marriage and Linkup!

Date Your Mate

I was honored when Steve Pare, of Spousedates, asked me if my husband Gary and I would share about the ways we make dating a priority in our marriage. If you’re interested, I’d love it if you’d hop over to Steve’s place where you can read more about our story. I also want to emphasize […]

When Can You Handle My Hurt? Video

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Well, I’m back and excited to share my 5th “computer-side chat” with all of you {with a special shout out going to my sweet friend, Linda over at Creekside Ministries}! Each video in this series tackles the “sloppy expectations” we have in marriage, with this week being about the timing and sensitivity needed when sharing […]

4 Year Blogaversary, Giveaways and Linkup!

MPG is God's Fuel

I can’t believe it’s been four years since I launched Messy Marriage way back in October of 2010. Since then, much has happened in my life and in the life of this blog, but one thing has remained constant … my personal pursuit of a surrendered heart to God. That’s because I know a surrendered […]

Not Here But There …

This past week my husband and I attended the AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) conference down in Branson, Missouri. It was great to get to go and soak up all that the experts had to teach, inspire and offer us. Needless to say, I didn’t have the time to produce a video for Sloppy Joe Time […]

The Bigger Picture and Linkup!

My favorite view in the world!

It’s hard to believe but exactly a year ago today my husband and I were smack-dab in the middle of the trip of a lifetime to England and Wales. It was our 25th (plus one!) anniversary trip and it was everything and more that we had hoped for! Which made me feel as if God […]

Did I Marry Mr. Wrong? Video

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  Hey there! I hope you’ll take a few minutes to watch my latest edition of “Sloppy Joe Time.” I’m exploring the sloppy expectation that marriage should be easy, and if it’s not, then we married the wrong person.     The success of marriage comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the […]