My husband and I have been working lately on a “dream that we share”—to lead marriage seminars together. We’ve done a lot of marriage small groups, as well as, mentoring and counseling through our church and some through my life-coaching, but we have only just recently put into action parts of that “shared dream.”

I have to say it’s so exciting and has been drawing us closer together than ever before! And, I believe, working on some effort or project together as a couple has been hugely instrumental to our marriage becoming “less messy” over the years.

It’s just that when you both work toward a common goal and desire, you’re bound to grow closer and become more unified as a couple.

Do you and your spouse have something that you both are passionate about?

This can be a short-term project, like Aimee Imbeau and her husband’s recent effort to turn their new house into a home that they both love. In fact, she was the one who gave me the inspiration to add “dream-casting” to this week’s challenges. Thanks, Aimee! 

It can also be a long-term project. Maybe you both care about animals and want to volunteer with an organization that helps animals in need. Maybe you both love to run, so getting involved in any area races and marathons could be a great place to start and “finish!” (pardon the pun, I couldn’t resist!) 😉 An.y.way … the options are endless!

It’s simply a proven truth that …

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Week 4

Day One
Give your hubby a foot or back massage (his choice). Be sure to use oils or lotions to make it more relaxing for him and easier for you to work out those kinks.

Day Two
Take a “couple-selfie” of the two of you together, then share on FB, Instagram or text it to your best friends—encouraging them to take a couple selfie and post it somewhere!

Day Three
Using a dry erase marker, leave a little love note for your spouse on the mirror in your bathroom.

Day Four
Consider one area of your marriage that needs some focused “dream-time.” What do you both want to do in the future? Dream about a home project, ministry project, or family/couple’s vacation, etc.

Day Five
Schedule time to play a game with your hubby—break out the cards, or play a favorite board or computer game, then let the laughter ensue!

Day Six
Text your husband during the day, telling him about a romantic rendezvous you’d like to have with him later in the day. Then prepare your heart and mind to give yourself fully to your man at night’s end. (If sex with your guy continues to be a problem, make your challenge for this day to call a counselor and make an appointment to deal with your baggage.)

Day Seven
Schedule time to work together with your hubby on the “dream” you discussed back on day four of this past week. (Doesn’t have to happen today, simply should be “scheduled.”)

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What dream do you and your spouse share that could be or is a springboard to togetherness?

What challenges or hindrances are you facing in finding that common passion?

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