There are two aspects of marriage that I believe “glue us” to our spouses. When one or both are absent or lacking, you can expect that your marriage and feelings of love will suffer as well.

What is that special combo? Any guesses?

 

Married Sex and a Spiritual Foundation

 

1. Married Sex* –

God is such a thorough and gracious Creator. He not only uses sex to create children—who can bring us together as a family—but also created our bodies to secrete hormones that bond us when we make love or feel the affectionate touch of our mates.

Hormones such as: Norepinephrine, Noradrenaline, Oxytocin, Dopamine, Testosterone {found in both men and women}, and Phenylethymine {or “PEA” for short} provide the feeling of being bonded or “glued” to our partners. In fact, “PEA” is released whenever any of our loved ones touch us and occurs even when we see a photo of those we love.

Who knows, …

[Tweet “Maybe you &/or your mate are “PEA” deprived! Remember … it’s the season of ‘giving!’ “]

2. Spiritual Foundation –

I, for one, do not believe that just any spiritual foundation will do here! Our marriages must be built upon and sustained by Christ. He should be the Center of everything we do and the One who fills us up so we can truly love our mates {See my page “Know God” to learn more}.

When we connect with our mates spiritually, we experience another “glue” that is extra special—the bonding of the Holy Spirit {See Mark 10:7-9 and Eph. 5:31}. The amazing part about the Holy Spirit’s marital bonding is that He never leaves us nor stops working {John 5:17 and 14:16}—unlike our hormones that must be re-released continually!

Of course, we can resist the Holy Spirit’s work and feel distant from God and our spouses. But that does not mean our Comforter and Counselor has left us empty-handed, weak and ineffective …

We must simply ‘allow’ Him to apply His sticky “glue” to our marriages! 

 

BTW, a few weeks ago I shared a post, But what do you ‘feel’ about it? that includes another type of “PEA”—a daily spiritual and emotional connection exercise. Click here to find a “printable” to serve as a reminder to “PEA” with your spouse!

Consider adding this practice to your “couple routines or rituals.” And “lookie” here – adding sex to the mix gives you an “S” that turns “PEA” into “PEAS!” 🙂  Since these are God’s sticky blessings to and for us, you might just want to call them your “Sweet PEAS.” {Get it? “Sweet” … “Sticky!” 😉 }

 

What  favorite affectionate gesture do you like to receive from your mate?

{Keep it clean! This is a “G” rated blog! Lol!}

 

What is one or two spiritual practices that bring you closer to your spouse?

 

What challenges or hindrances do you face in these two “sticky” areas of your marriage?

 

Here’s a link to a yummy and super easy Christmas breakfast favorite – Sticky Buns so that you and your “Honey Bun” can get even stickier! Enjoy!

BTW, I will not be blog hopping much this Wednesday. I’m feeling a bit crushed by the busyness of the holiday season. I want to accept my limits and not make my marriage any “messier!” Lol! And FYI – next Wedded Wed {Dec. 14th} will be the last one until January 7th, since I’m taking a Christmas break from blogging.

* I’m not saying that sex outside of marriage cannot “glue you” to your partner—it does! Even the Bible mentions this phenomenon (1 Cor. 6:18-20). In fact, that’s one of the reasons we are admonished not to have sex before or outside of marriage, because it “rips” our bonded hearts and emotions when we pull away and move on to the next sexual partner. 

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Joining with my friends at  Works for Me Wednesday,  Wifey Wednesday,  Coffee and Conversation,  Wholehearted Wednesday,  Whimsical Wednesday, and Simply Said Mom.

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