The continual mending of my messy marriage can be traced back to one foundational shift in my life that created a cascade of other important and healing choices. Ultimately this had everything to do with my heart in relation to God.
So with that in mind, I’m going to begin a new series that will unpack the spiritual and relational steps I’ve taken over the years that have consistently encouraged me in life and marriage.
Today I want to focus on the “Know” part of this journey.
When I was a young girl of about six years of age, God slowed my heart and focus enough for me to realize that I wanted a relationship with God through salvation. I say it that way because I think that an unbeliever can relate to God on many levels. They can even love and serve him, yet not really be “in relationship” with Him or receive His salvation.
There are a lot of people who refer to this spiritual transaction as having a “personal relationship with Christ.” But the Bible never uses that terminology. When people say it that way, I think they’re trying to convey the surrender and intimacy of placing one’s faith in the Lord, rather than simply being religious.
But that might leave you questioning your salvation. I think it’s entirely possible that your relationship might not immediately feel very “personal” or intimate.
You might even feel like you’ve fallen for a bait and switch scheme—especially if your life continues to be fraught with trouble and injustices. That’s because . . .
Consider this . . .
“For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe on him, but also to suffer for him.” ~Philippians 1:29
Here are a few more examples of this harsh truth – Mark 10:43-45, Luke 6:27-31, Luke 9:23-25.
Back to my story . . . I decided (as much as any six-year-old can) to receive Christ at that point. I knew that I’d sinned and wanted the forgiveness He offered me.
But I will tell you, I really struggled with doubts after that for many years. I did all the right things to grow in my faith, but constantly questioned whether I knew what I was doing at that young and tender age.
Of course, I wouldn’t admit my doubts to anyone, which only served to deepen my fears and fire up the doubts that I really didn’t have a relationship with Christ.
It wasn’t until I was in college and dating my then boyfriend (now hubby) that I laid it all out for Gary to hear. He assured me that my heart and life gave evidence of my faith in Christ. That was all it took for me to stand in that truth and reality.
Christ was (and is) my Savior!
I’d felt His movement and conviction in my life all along the way.
I’d just let Satan convince me that that wasn’t enough. 🙁
Which leads me to some questions for you . . .
- Have you ever acknowledged the sin in your life—knowing it has separated you from God?
- Do you know and believe that you’re unable to earn your way into God’s good graces?
- Have you then, through faith and not by works, received His gift of forgiveness and salvation?
If you’ve recognized and done those things, then rest in the truth that You are His!* 🙂
You need this foundation in order to find your way through a messy marriage and life, my friends. Without this essential relationship with Christ, you will feel like a “man overboard” without a life-preserver in the middle of a raging sea.
If you’re a Christ-follower, how did you come to that important spiritual crossroads?
How has Christ made a difference in improving your marriage and life?
*If you’re still uncertain about this all-important decision in your life and/or want to know more, check out my Know God page.
I hope you’ll join me next week as I continue in this series. I’ll be tackling what it means to “slow” yourself so that you can know and grow—finding more fulfillment in life and marriage.
And I’m going to be featured as a guest at Marnie and Friend’s radio show this week. You can listen in to our live conversation on what I’ve learned from the mistakes in my marriage at 3 p.m. (CT) on Wednesday, Feb. 15th or thereafter at that same link.
Here are some lovely linkups I join – Christian Blogger Community, Mondays @ Soul Survival, Testimony Tuesday, Writer Wednesday, Coffee and Conversation, Coffee for Your Heart, Sitting Among Friends, Moments of Hope, Literary Musing Mondays, Fresh Market Friday, and DanceWithJesusFriday
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