Today I’m continuing to unpack some of the ways that I pray and prayer journal that provides the comfort I long for when my marriage and/or life wounds me deeply.
And though I’m talking mainly about prayer journaling, I’m also simply talking about ways to make our prayers more conducive to sensing God’s comfort in times of pain.
One of the main ways to receive God’s comfort through prayer and prayer journaling is to simply make it your “go to” response in times of pain. It’s so tempting to turn to “Ben and Jerry’s” or our well-meaning friends—who might coincidentally be named “Ben” and “Jerry” 😉 —before we turn to the Lord.
So when you’re wounded by your mate, by life or both, I hope you’ll . . .
Here are some unique and specific ideas for finding God’s comfort in prayer . . .
Method 1 – Prayer Journal a Psalm (or any comforting Scripture)
Allow me to show you how to do this with Psalm 35:1 as a jumping off place.
“Contend, O Lord, with those who contend with me; fight against those who fight against me.”
My sweet Father, I’m desperate for Your comfort right now. Gary and I just pelted each other with venomous words and I feel so beaten down and afraid. He doesn’t understand or love me like You do, Lord! You are my hiding place. So I come to You, asking that You would indeed contend with him. Because when I try to, it all ends up going horribly wrong. Open his eyes to the ways he’s hurt me—cutting me to the quick. And don’t just open his eyes, Lord! Open both our eyes to the ways we’ve hurt each other. May You be the One who fights for our marriage, so that we don’t fall into the trap of fighting against each another.
Can you see how praying God’s word can bring perspective, adding a more heightened awareness of God’s comfort and care in a painful time?
Method 2 – Envision the Lord
I’m a visual person, so I find this extremely helpful for sensing God’s comfort when I pray. In fact, I begin my time of prayer with this method each day—unless of course, I’m driving while I pray! 😉
I simply bow my head before I begin to prayer journal and I imagine greeting and being greeted by the Lord. But when I’m in pain, I imagine the Lord running to me, encircling me in His arms and crying with me.
Method 3 – Pour Out Your Heart
This is sort of the follow-up to Method 2, though it certainly can stand on its own. But what I want to stress here is the need to be completely uncensored verbally as well as emotionally. Just let your heart break before the Lord.
Remember how Jesus poured His heart out before the Lord the night before His crucifixion? As the Savior of the world, God in the flesh, He didn’t try to pull it together or hold back—even sweating droplets of blood! And if anyone knows how to pray, it was and is Jesus!
Method 4 – Let Grief Give Way to Praise
One of the consistent things I’ve noticed in King David’s psalms is how his prayers begin with pouring out his heart to God in grief, but then take a very obvious turn toward praising God. David then would declare in faith what he believed God would do for him moving forward.
I don’t know about you, but whenever I turn from my sadness (in life or in my prayers) to seeing the good God is doing in each moment, I feel greater and greater degrees of God’s comfort and encouragement. And declaring what God will do activates my faith in His incredible power.
I hope you’ll try this the next time you experience pain.
What’s a method for finding God’s comfort through prayer that you would add to my list?
Which of the methods I’ve shared is one you’d like to try, and why?
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