Today I’m interrupting my Desperate Marriage Myth series to do a book giveaway and review on the new release of Love to Stay by Adam Hamilton. I’m also attending the American Association of Christian Counselor’s conference in Nashville and may be delayed on replying to comments or blog hopping, but I will do my best to respond when I can.
In Love, Sex and Marriage, the author surveyed 5184 people in 2011, both married and single who answered questions based on their love lives. I really enjoyed how he took this data and revealed important facts regarding such topics as; what men and women want, the significance of sexual intimacy, faithfulness, conflict and forgiveness to name a few. You can tell from this list of topics that this book is useful for both married couples and singles who want to prepare for marriage.
The statistical findings also provided a wealth of information on how to make “love stay”—an ambition that we’re glad to encourage here at Messy Marriage! Adam shared mostly from the viewpoint of a pastor and counselor rather than from a husband’s perspective, but he did share “here and there” personal experiences and struggles he’s had in his life and marriage. I suppose I would’ve liked to have heard more about his marriage and marital challenges than he offered. But I’m not disappointed by the direction he took, since the statistical information really was eye-opening, engaging and helpful for working through the challenges of marriage.
I appreciated that the author spoke from a clearly Christian viewpoint throughout. And I also found the Reflect and Engage sections he provided at the end of each chapter to be a great resource for further processing. In this section, he offered specific questions based upon the chapter’s topic, ways to pray together, ideas and exercises to do on your own, as well as, some additional thoughts for singles.
The author also occasionally offered suggestions on certain aspects of love and marriage that I thought were insightful, often biblically-based and practical. However, there was one suggestion that I didn’t agree with. He suggested ways to spice up your sex life, one of which was to use a sex toy between a husband and wife. Personally, I don’t feel it’s ever a good idea to introduce a sexual method of stimulation that can’t be replicated in form or intensity by a spouse. That’s simply my conviction but I don’t think you can make a case for it being biblically prohibited either.
Overall, I really enjoyed and learned a lot from this book. The author kept me interested all throughout, especially in the chapters that included survey results. I would recommend this book to those who are married as well as those who are single and hope to marry someday.
If you would like to enter the contest to win this book, please leave a comment below. (Make sure that your email is registered when you sign in through Disqus, so that I can reach you if you win.) Comments can be entered through midnight on Thursday, Sept. 12th. I will announce the winner here on this blog post on Friday. And I’ll be continuing the Desperate Marriage Myth series on Monday.
So, what’s a marriage practice you’ve done through the years that has helped your “love to stay”?
Additional ways to connect and investigate this new book and the author are:
And the winner, selected by random number generator, is – Ngina! Yayyyy! I’ll be in touch, my friend to make arrangements to get the book to you!
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